I know its a mixed-plate of emotions. Do not give in to it. I am not condoling your W's actions. I would never wish this sitch upon anyone. Right now, give her space. This will be the hardest thing you've done! Do NOT discuss marital issues. Allow her to speak, and do not demand, ask questions, or argue. Your W is a WAW/MLC'er! You need to validate what she says REGARDLESS if you agree or not. If she says something, do not react. Instead, show that you're listening. (This is Michele's *ACT AS IF* approach.) It will improve your chances in softening her heart, and winning her back. If you are receiving therapy, make sure its solution-oriented. Non-SBTs will point you toward the wrong direction by over-analyzing the past. Please call the DB office for a referral, or seek telephone C from one of our coaches. In the meantime, have faith, GAL, set mini-goals and charge after them! Michele's techniques will work for you whether you D or not. You will become self-reliant. Remember, happiness is a decision - with or without W.
These techniques require patience, faith, and strength. DECIDE to choose DB'n!
