Piecing...gosh this is hard ll

[a new 2moro]

hey BFM, i think part of my frustration is i dont know what to do! the first months i was patient, kind, gave him space, no pressure about ow...everything i thought would be right. i put him first in my life. I got a full time job to be a working partner in the marriage. he ended up sleeping with her! he said he felt unwelcome, not sure i loved him....that i was stand offish. he also felt my friends didnt like him....projecting guilt?

so what to try? he doesnt respond to flirting, he has no desire to be intimate with me. you can feel it in his body language and his kisses. Ive tried to get him to take a weekend away...he wont, there is always an excuse.

so i guess i am at a loss as to what to try. i just feel i dont have the whole man back yet. i dont know what to do to help that whole man back.