My story, please help

[GavinO]

Yesterday I cam home and W and one of her girlfiends were in, I offered a coffee to them and W came down with her cup. I asked her about a job interview she had that day and she said it went well, she has to do a couple of trial shifts and do a formal interview at some point but she is confident she will get it, I said her hair looks nice (Glue in purple streaks in it)she thanked me and told me she had new jeans as well.

I asked if she was home or away tonight, she said away and I know she is away on Wed as she has a couple of friends round to make hash cookies. She is staying at her parents while they are away this week. W said she would be back on Thursday.

During that discussion I saw my real wife for a bit which was sooo nice.

I took the coffees upstairs to them and said I was going to do some training, W waved at me.

When they left W said she'd catch me later.

So far:
*she has not packed or moved anything else out (yet lol)
*our marriage certificate is still upstairs in the study
*the list of property is in the table downstairs
*The details for putting the house on the market is still in the house unsigned and not returned to the estate agents
*there is a picture of us next to her computer where she pays solitaire
*I have not had any divorce papers through yet (but have a letter I need to sign for and collect from the post office)Dunno what it is.

I have got the 5LL (hers is quality time then acts of service, then physical touch, which I knew anyway really - I did the questionaires as I know her) Also got DB and DR and men are from mars, women are from venus so I have got to read and learn like a mofo.

W seems to be running the 'single life' at the moment, I hope it burns out and that she realises that what she has already can be great! If we can renew/rebuild/restart our relationship things will never get this bad again, she will never feel hurt or neglected again as I will be giving our relationship my all.

Just want her to 'come out of it' and be open to regrowth and rebuilding.

Hanging in there and improving myself, I like myself and I am being positive, friendly and upbeat most of the time genuinely as well (I have bad moments of course)I am also keeping the house tidy as well (one of my 180's that have been consistent)

Hope it all comes good