JMW, As you know I can't give you the answers you are looking for (unfortunately) BUT what I can do is reassure you that YOU are doing everything just right. Keep on being true to yourself and your sons. Your H (like mine) is a lost soul right now. Concentrate on those whose souls are alive and receptive to your love.
Me 43 XH 45 M 2.7.88 Divorce 7.10.09 Kids D20,S17 & D15