If you are bothered that much then have him stop. Why drive yourself crazy over not being in control? I understand that perhaps you feel he doesn't respect by not doing the laundry or putting away the dishes to your liking but if you are not willing to let him do it, then take it back as one of your tasks. There has to be something that he can do where you won't be bothered by how he does it. Obviously, there is a lot more going than the annoyance of his skills at doing these tasks. Is your therapist still guiding you? Does he go to therapy?
