you're getting good advice here. Find a pro-M counselor. I did. It was about the 4th one and H had disliked all the others b/c they said he was being selfish, making decisions like a single man, etc. Very painful although really, all true.
AFTER H left, I went to the pro-M counselor just to "cover my bases" if you know what I mean. He was great. He was a minister of some sort although I never got preached to. I DID ask him what the morally right thing to do was/is, and discussed MLC issues, basic selfish patterns, distinguishing which is which, etc. When to move on, when to keep hoping. H finally met with the pro-M and they hit it off! Of course, H was ready by then. It took a long time and even the c said to me, "if you stay M, do it for love and commitment, not fear of being alone." That stuck with me and I think it was when that actually happened (ie me not being afraid of being alone, and in fact, starting to see the positives of a new life, etc.) that H and I started finding each other again. No matter what happens in your sitch, you DO have to lose that fear in order to really love anyhow. Make sense?
It's never hopeless. Besides, I have two (2) relatives who actually divorced and then remarried their ex's. So it does happen. I'm a witness.
Meantime, keep on GAL my friend. And keep posting. j-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
