I have to post to a forgotten thread but nevermind it's time for an update anyway.
Sooooo,
These days STBXW is now offically XW, The D was last week. There was no fanfare it simply just happened, probably better for both of us I guess.
I've done a few things for me one being XW is no longer allowed in MY house, this happened because one night long ago as she was here to see the kids she also held a baby shower under my roof. That was it I told her she will pick the kids up and take them to her house (rathole). The kids are around OM these days when she has visitation but I keep a very close eye on that. She shows no sign at all of leaving OM and she is still supporting OM as well. I am in the process of recovering over 6 thousand in back support, I will win this fight and when I do it will probably finish her, she will lose everything that was MLC important to her.
My kids are adjusting pretty good, I've had issues with her calling in sick on visit days (which crushes the kids) I've told her I will track her down and force the visitation, that seemed to straighten her out for now.
As for me I am embracing being single, I got into an R back in June and we are still together so far. After going through this MLC as a LBS it changes everything. I am seeing MLC everywhere I look including my new R, I did a little IC and I was told this is normal for me to feel this way. I can't wait till I can work through this crap and become whole again if I ever can. This stuff takes it's toll and the working on yourself never stops. If anything I am a much better person for what I have had to endure and it shows.
A funny side note to this is today at the exchange of the kids XW decided to bring them out wearing a leapord print set of daisy dukes and a halter, all in 40 degree weather. OH and I could tell it was cold as she was wearing no bra.
Whatever it was it fell on deaf eyes, it stirred no emotion what so ever.
