Hi ST! Thanks for stopping by.

Originally Posted By: S.T. _I Made It!
Did you ever initiate in bed before? before the sitch? not in the beginning, but the times leading up to the sitch?


I tried to initiate several months ago, before he moved out and I was turned down. \:\( So, that keeps popping into my mind, even though things are going much better now than they were then. I guess I don't want to screw things up any more. Also, I initiated the last "real" time we were together, which seems like many, many moons ago- probably about a year ago...

Originally Posted By: S.T. _I Made It!
Now if he has some kind of physical problem causing him a complex about ML, then that's a whole diff issue, but IMHO, guys want us to be sexy, look good for us, initiate sometimes, and just be that "crazy-good-girl" in bed.


I don't think there's any physical problem. And, he did say that he was still attracted to me a couple of months ago in JC.

I may wait a bit before really trying to initiate something. Right now I think I would be too crushed if he turned me down- if I can get to the mindset that UD mentioned, with no expectations, then I'm sure I will have no problem going for it.


me- 42
H- 51
married 11 years
D-9, S-9, D-3

bomb 4/07
h moved out 8/07
h moved back 4/08