You guys are so wonderful, I'm so thankful I found DB & wish I had found it sooner!! I know what you mean & I heard all the same things you said your H said to you. One night he had me in tears at how he had been unhappy for years & all this other stuff, that I tried to mold him into something he was not & that he was not 1st in my life that the dogs, my church & my parents came before him (which is so not true!!). I realize now that it was H guilt talking but at the time it sure did hurt & still does to some degree. I said if he was so unhappy why did he buy me a 300.00 leather jacket & a SUV for Xmas 2006? Also, his wedding ring slipped off his finger & he didn't know it Nov. 2006, he was so devastated about loosing it & kept saying he wanted the same one back because I gave it to him on our special day, he was almost in tears. We looked everywhere for days & couldn't find it. I got him another one for Xmas 2006. Then all of this happened. Of course when I asked him about it he had to walk away & not say anything. When he was staying in the house with me for 5 months if we ever talked about the R he would have to leave or go to bed or something so he wouldn't have to talk about it. He was the one that usually brought it up too. After I found out about OW I would not bring it up & would only talk to him when he started it.
I still have cards that he gave me just a couple of years ago that said he could not imagine his life without me & he would marry me all over again & thanked me for being so good to him. And now he goes all crazy!! Someone told me once that a M in MLC was like someone being on cocaine. I think they are right! I hope he will come off his high soon! But I am trying to take care of myself & I did get a call today about a full time job, they cannot meet with me until after the end of March but at least it might be something good.
I will keep posting, I love to hear all the advice!!!!
