My H is one of the ones who would have a HUGE mind-blowing conversation with me...and then disappear. He really needed his "cave" time to think. I never understood this. Then, one day (not too long ago) he made a comment which stopped me in my tracks. I suddenly needed to be alone. ME! Alone! I am the one who can never keep my mouth shut. But what he said hit so close to home for me that I needed to really think about it before I could even respond. In that moment I understood his need for that time too. I had never needed/wanted it before, so his need for it pissed me off and drove me absolutely crazy. I just couldn't get how someone would need to think before answering a freakin' question!
Your XH sounds as if he has lots to process. Keep snapping those rubberbands and let him! It may not be the way YOU handle things, but you gotta let it happen. Don't think of it as "hiatus." Think of it as "think time."
Now I feel bad for reading and not posting to you. Sometimes I just don't have anything worthwhile to add. It would have been nice if I had said this, though: I'm pullin' for ya, Jeanette. So, consider it said.
Sometimes I just don't have anything worthwhile to add. It would have been nice if I had said this, though:
