I think it's normal to go through a funk of sorts now that the divorce is final.
For some time you had to work hard each day to stay on top of your game as you DB'ed your way through the ending of your marriage. All along it was not what you wanted, and part of you was always hoping that maybe it wouldn't turn out the way it was looking like it would.
Now it's done.
Suddenly there aren't those compelling forces at work each day to address. Now your issues are what color paint to buy, and how much lumber can you afford to re-do how many rooms worth of trim?
Add to that the reality of being apart from your kids AND an ex-spouse who is interested in being friends right now. It's a tricky combo Jeff.
I don't see a problem with wallowing for a bit if that's what you need to do. Hope you don't do it through the bottom of a bottle - that won't help you adjust. And I hope you don't allow it to linger for too long.
Find someone to hang out with one evening. Go catch some of the NCAA games at a sports bar with a friend. Yeah, your give a damn's busted, I get that. I won't get fixed by sitting around each night lamenting about how unmotivated you are feeling.
As for your ex...
Can't tell if you're pissed at her, still loving her, or maybe some mad combination of the two.
From my perspective (knowing that I'm not privy to the whole picture - forgive my ignorance), what's wrong with being the man she is comfortable calling on? And what if she DID tell your Mom that she still loved you? Keeping the peace doesn't have to be cold and sterile, as long as you can get over the notion that you're being used.
Personally, I think it's interesting that you are still the one she thinks to call on.
Miss you around here friend.
Blessings,
Bill
"Don't tell me the sky is the limit when there are footprints on the moon."
