Barb & Happy, Life is better since I dropped all expectations in regards to X. I can afford to help my D and I will for as long as necessary. Course, this will cut into my traveling and fun money but I'd do anything for her and vice versa. She will graduate from college some day, get a decent job and put me in the Royal Carribbean Nursing Home where I hope to meet up with all my friends here.
As for X.......I was thinking about our D's wedding someday. She wants "me" to give her away (like I haven't been trying ) but I know that she'll do the "right thing" and allow her Dad to do it. And, I wish he would feel some degree of shame for all that he's done to hurt us. But....no expectations.
Hey Jilly Zero expectations, one of the first things they taught us here right? Still holds true.
So glad K has you! and do not blame her for wanting her very responsible parent to give her away, but you are right, when the time comes, I am sure she'll have that soft spot.
Glad the house is still looking good, my fingers and eyes and toes and other body parts are crossed for you!
Be Happy for this Moment, This Moment is your Life
So sorry your X is being such a turkey butt. One of the sayings I cut out of the paper a few years back: "Don't count on shaming the shameless." It caught my attention because I foolishly asked my X,and I quote, "Have you no shame?" I regretted asking because the look on his face will stay with me forever. It plainly stated, "NO, I have none." I think I could have lived without that vision. On the upside, it finally made me realize that he truly felt he hadn't done anything wrong and then I knew for sure that he was a certifiable nut case.
My niece got married last September. She did not have her father give her away because she felt he had made a mockery out of marriage. I respected her for that. But, gosh, I hate the position all these kids are in. I truly hate it.
Hang in there. Good luck with the house.
Spitty
Always do right. This will gratify some people, and astonish the rest. Mark Twain
My niece got married last September. She did not have her father give her away because she felt he had made a mockery out of marriage. I respected her for that. But, gosh, I hate the position all these kids are in. I truly hate it.
Wow! that is very insightful of her, never thought of it that way, poor thing, and you are right spitfire, these innocent kids have to deal with a lot of things, that I personally never had to.
I guess all we can do is be the best parent we can, we can only control that.
Be Happy for this Moment, This Moment is your Life
Well.......after a week of dizzy spells, stress, longer hours at work than I wanted......I'M SELLING MY HOUSE!!!!
This thing has been on and off all week. The bank wouldn't loan the buyer enough money, reoffered less than what we agreed upon, lotso stupid stuff happening!!!
Anyway, she's come around and it looks like a go. I'll know for sure tomorrow.
Now about these dizzy spells......I had them a little over a year ago, ended up in the hospital overnight, etc. Lots of tests done with no results. OK???? It's happening again. My boss handed me the phone today and she already had our doctor on the line. She told me "make an appt for tomorrow." So, tomorrow it begins again. I don't have time to be laid up because everytime I move my head, I nearly pass out!!!!
Oh my gosh, Jill - that does not sound good. First off - have you checked your BP? If not - get your butt to the pharmacy and check it right this min and if it is high - go straight to the EMergency Dept. We all know that I would have died 4 months ago if I hadn't done that.
Drink lots of water. Rest. Don't do anything strenuous.
I had a friend years ago, same thing, dizzy spells bad, came and went, vertigo, she said. Nothing was found , so thats what the dr. labled it. Has your dr. mentioned that? inner ear infections too I bet he/she has mentioned?
Your BP is low tho isnt it?
I hope its temp. and you are feeling better soon. You have a cruise to get seasick on!
Be Happy for this Moment, This Moment is your Life
Thanks, Barb & SG, My BP is very low all the time so no problems there. I honestly can't figure this out and it makes me afraid to leave the house sometimes. These spells just come from nowhere. This AM I was getting ready for work and I felt it coming on. I got all hot and clammy, laid down for about 10 minutes and it went away. Then I was freezing!!! I still have some pills left from my first incident with this a year ago so I'm carrying them with me for now.
Yes, I want to find out why this is happening and I want them to make it stop!!!
SG, my boss is great!!! She was in the ER a few months ago from stress related stuff and she's definitely looking out for me.
Heck, I have no stress!!! My D23 had a meltdown about a month ago, I've got all this stuff going on with my house, I'm suing X......me, worry??? NOT!!!!
