Oh Kissak, I wish I had an answer for you. I think that one day it just all kind of clicked for me. My best guess as to why that happened is that I was finally loving myself. Once that happened I had more love for my H than I could have imagined. This time, though, it wasn't the kind of love that caused me pain. And yes, that meant being able to let him go if it meant that he would be happier. I am not saying that it didn't hurt, but overall I did feel good about having that kind of unconditional love.
My best advice is don't say those words if you don't truly mean them. And it is ok if you just don't mean them right now. It is a process. All of this is.
I have to tell you, I can hardly believe it is me typing these words. I would have never thought I could have gotten to this place. Like I said before, I was befuddled by Betsey when she said these kinds of things!
