Husband's Mid-Life Crisis

[addie]

nlt,
I know what you're saying. From what I've read, sometimes A's happen even in happy M. In my sitch, things were going well for us the last 2+ years, better than throughout most of our M. That's why all this through me for a loop and I did not handle any of it well. Sometimes it's the timing, opportunity or temptation that presents itself and an EA/PA begins. But aboveall, it's about the WAS's unhappiness with self. Although your H blames you, he has done this to justify his actions. I heard similar things from my H - we're not compatible, he's never been happy with me, we shouldn't be together, I'm controlling, etc. etc. It hurt like hell at the time but I now realize it was all WAS spew.

You have to find things to keep you busy to get your mind off your sitch. Your H will most likely realize that OR is not what he really wants but there are no guarantees in any of this. Keep posting on here. People will respond.