Wandering Poster - Number Nine

[AliSuddenly]

Hey Jeff...I just wanted to say (and whack me with a 4X4 if needs be - ouch, thats a car in this country!) I have noticed you saying that alot, or on alot of threads "still thinking", or "I need to think about this some more"... do you think that might be something you could do a 180 on !?? I wonder if you are a little stuck, or stuck in yuor ways, or more of a thinker than a dooer (maybe the W shouting is her expressing frustration at you? Bad reaction though I agree!). You have been doing alot of thinking, but can you just take some action?? You change one thing in life, it changes everything. She wont change (or hasnt). What can you DO !? I guess you might be in a rut with it? I think Lisa mentioned 180s to you before, but I cant remember if you came up with any in your thread recently (sorry if I missed that!)

With the yelling, maybe straight walking off isnt going to work. Do you ever say calmly, I dont like this behaviour from you, it upsets me when you shout at me. I'd love to talk to you about X but that isnt possible when you shout - um, or something like that!? (you probably have and then some...)

Lastly, you havent mentioned your test results yet, but I'm thinking of you,

Ali xxx
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Me: 37
H: 34
T: 9 years
ILYBINILWY: 2 Nov 07
Own apartment: 26 Jan 08
Depression confirmed!