Viginia, with all the sincerity, honesty and appreciation I hold, if you are truely Michele's Personal Assitant, please convey my thanks to her for her book. For Jeff and Heather in Anchorage Alaska, I wouldn't be married but for reading her book.
Her principals saved my marriage.
I have bought her book for two other people. I recommend her book all the time to people who are having hardships in their marriage.
What kept me on track were the people here both on and off of the board.
You're "No posting contact information," while perhaps justifable for legal reasons, is wow...words fail me, and that is no mean feat. If it is for legal reasons, I can understand it. It sucks that we were able to do it for the better part of 2 plus years, it sucks that you're removing that ability for hurt people to reach out and support each other.
If it is for any other reason than legal it is paranoia. And it is unwarrented and beyond naive and short sighted on ANYONE's part who has a hand in this decision.
I would not be married today to my wife, if not for reading Michele's book AND the support from this board, MLC in particular. For over 3 years my wife wallowed in her MLC self destructive habits and liasions the only thing that kept me from despair were the people here, and at 11 pm at night when no one is on these boards, the phone calls to them or from them.
I recommend Michele's book to everyone I come across who seems to need it. I recommend it to newlyweds.
I have stopped recommending people come to the boards however.
How many people have stopped giving advice lately? How many people have stopped posting? How many people are deciding to move on? Good long time posters, who actually have good solid advice to give? The stupid insipid silly posts were a way to blow off steam around here. Those are gone.
It's like New Coke here, now.
Yes, I know this is your territory, the marks are all over the place. Hard to miss actually.
Your improvements of this board has gutted it.
Believe me as an LBS, and married to an MLCer, I know one of the hardest things to do is look deeply in the mirror and see my own faults, and to admit wrongs and change them.
Cheeseless tunnels...its in the book.
If you discount EVERYTHING else I just said, please convey my thanks to Michele for her book.
Jack aka Jeff
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
