>>He did ask questions about who I have been hanging out with, I told him " I dont have to tell you"<<

Hummmm... maybe add a little more lightheartedness to it. Try to be happy and nice because your life is going on (and even if it doesn't feel that way, when you live that way it does almost feel like it). I remember my husband asking me this type of thing and I'd just smile and say.... "Oh, nobody..." One time I even winked and said in a flirty way, "Wouldn't you like to know!"

Although you eventually will want to talk R stuff, I think it may still be too early. Until he's actually taking concrete steps to move back and commiting to the marriage R talk is just talk..... Also, if he is to come back you want him to REALLY WANT TO BE THERE. For your own emotional growth and healing I think it's better to focus on your life as it is now and being happy with or without him. And not expecting one single thing from him. And wishing him a great life in spite of his decisions. Because yours is going to be great no matter what.

There is no arriving, ever. It is all a continual becoming.