Bring on the Rain

[SueS]

lwb, Sheila, Saffie, Grumpy.....thank you.

I had a few tears today when talking to a good friend of mine. I do truly feel stronger and look forward to a brighter future but it doesn't stop the pain due to the fact that my H is planning on leaving and I'll have to explain to our D3 why daddy isn't around.

Grumpy....I knew what you meant! You are right. Having people on your side isn't the same as having your world right and where you want it. And, your comment about your H leaving you...and not the other way around. How true. I've been reading about exit affairs. I'm wondering if my H's affair is an exit affair. Things were not perfect, but late Spring, early Summer, things were getting better in all ways. We spent more time together, our sex life increased....etc. I did everything he wanted/gave him everything he needed even before I knew about the A and before it became a PA. I talked to him about wanting to work on the M before it became a PA. I let him know how I felt. Still, he continued with it. I read that sometimes the spouse in an exit affair often sees the affair partner as a soul mate, the love of their life because they already wanted out of their M.....so this MUST be the one they've been waiting for. Often it fails after fantasy become reality.

Our Landlord came over last night. He dropped off papers for non-renewal. We do not live in a large managed complex. He owns our unit. The housing market for sellers in MN is horrible. He's lost thousands already. He needs to move back in and try to refinance. We have until our lease is up at the end of July. He emailed us this morning as a follow up. I called H right away. He'd seen the message and asked me if I'd looked at any more 2 bedroom apts. I told him that I had been looking. I didn't want to get into it at work, but very soon it will all have to come out. He keeps emphasizing the words "2 bedroom". I know that D3 would need her own room, no doubt. However, a question hit me today. Does H emphasize that incase things fall apart with OW and he thinks with a 2 bedroom it will be enough room for him to come back to? Maybe, maybe not. Just strange how he keeps pushing that.

H called and let us know he'd be running late last night. He came home, ate and fell asleep on the bed. I'd like to kick his a$$ for not staying up and spending more time with D3. But, a wise person on my thread said that he needs to facilitate his own relationship with her. I already have mine with her.

Have a good evening.

SueS