I think your wife got it right when she said that she was emotionally shut off from you. That is exactly the problem. How can you have feelings of love and attraction when you shut yourself off emotionally? You can't.
As a WAW I felt strongly that I didn't love my husband and although I found him still attractive I didn't have that desire. I was always doubtful of my feelings which is why I agreed to counseling, but didn't put much effort into it I admit.
Although she may tell you that she feels these things without a doubt, as a former WAW, I can say that it is possible she is just as confused as you are but doesn't realize it herself. The stress of marital issues can really do a number on you mentally. You don't know which way is up and which way is down, but you think you have it all figured out. She probably won't feel guilty until she wakes up and this requires work and patience on your part.
Have you read DR or DB? If not I would get it right away and start your 180. Are you going to individual or couple's counseling?
Last edited by HOPEFULinCALI; 03/18/0809:34 PM.
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