Jak, I'm hoping that what's occurring with the recent conflicts is that now that my W has more free time since reducing her work hours, she is now free to address issues of concern that she was too tired and stressed to deal with before. Wanting to manage and repair finances, raising the cleaning standards in the home, managing home improvement projects, maintaining and repairing cars, cleaning out clutter, are all positive goals.
I don't view it as committing to the M, but accepting that this is her life and home, and that there are no easy escapes from it, so she might as well face it and begin to problem-solve.
I guess since these projects have all been neglected, her frustration is showing. I'll try to tolerate her emotions for now, with the idea that projects will be completed, and strategies for problems will be developed and implemented. I think the quality of her life has to improve environmentally and financial stress has to be lessened before we can move into other relational issues.
I'm thinking that a reduction in her workload was a good idea, even though she is now more aware of the unresolved domestic problems.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
