Hi Sue, so glad to hear that you have started joining in clubs and do some fun stuff! It always helps! I belong to a romance readers club, a writing critique group, and have gone back to school (although I'm done now until fall). I was actually glad when my school and my kids school was over, I had gotten so busy, I was running myself ragged! Now I'm ready for a summer break! Just wish I had a pool!
Hope that your dd's finger is healing well. How are the July 4th plans coming along? Think of me when you party, b/c that's my bday! Have a great time!
And thanks for stopping by my thread for encouragement. It means a lot. I did stay away today, posted an update if you want to see how the day was.
Take care, JL
Life is not measured in the breaths we take, but in the moments that take our breath away...
After all the times you stopped by thread and gave me support and advice, I thought I would check up on you, but of course only out of my own selfishness because I need your help!
I wish I could give you some advice about H, but I'm clueless! I'm glad he went to lunch with you when you asked, but I also know how hard it was for you to ask. Everyone tells me to ask W out, but I don't dare! Although she brought me lunch two weeks ago, after not seeing her for two months, and the first time we had lunch together in 6 months??? I actually think she needed to get into my office to get some more papers for her L for the D hearings next week, so I just left her alone in my office for two days.
So before I ask you for advice, back to your H. At least you are able to talk to him and do some things with him, athough I know how much it hurts you to be so nice to him when he is hurting you so much. You are a strong loving woman. And of course you know the routine by now; "be his best friend" It sounds like a bunch of crap, but you know the only other choice. It sounds like he may be starting to "wake up" so keep being strong!
You are always mentioning courtrooms in your posts. I figure that you either spend a lot of time in them because of your sit, or as an observer, or you work in one! Never figured it out! Next week I have to meet my W in court, and I'm not looking forward to it! How do you DB in a courtroom when your W is suing you, wants $$$, wants house, wants D, wants to marry OG, and all I want to do is not end up bankrupt?
I'll be gone 'till Monday, so I'll check back then!
Thanks,
And PS: Glad to know you have the same dreams I do!
Kinda quiet here..picnic tomorrow..suppose to rain.
Went to church thing Tues p.m. and we are informal, outside for fun, get together..at end we all join hands and say a prayer..guess who came up and took mine!!!??I was so shocked...he is making an effort to interact with me, I try not to hang around him too much whe we are together..but he seeks me out..GREAT HUGE STEP..
We were talking about the ff, I saw at work that her aty filed for a pretrial.. so I asked h if she told him..yes she had..her h does not want to give her any $..I asked h if her new man has $$..he said one time she sayd yes, another no..actually sounds kinda disgusted when he talks about her...hello...I think he has seen the real her. I am so wanting to know if he is going to bowl with her..I might have to slip the question in..
Quoting Sue: Went to church thing Tues p.m. and we are informal, outside for fun, get together..at end we all join hands and say a prayer..guess who came up and took mine!!!??I was so shocked...he is making an effort to interact with me, I try not to hang around him too much whe we are together..but he seeks me out..GREAT HUGE STEP..
I see that hug in your future and this time you won't have to ask for it ... Now you go out and head for that Chinese restaurant while I get this down in a fortune cookie and pass it along.
Thanks KAW, I'll be looking for the cookie!!! Does your family have plans today??
We had a rain come thru, now sun and humid..turned on our window air, for the downsatairs, but does not seem to be cooling real great..oh well..it is 4th if July and it is not suppose to be 50!!
Crossed paths Bob..It was very hot on the 4th, a little better today, so I turned air off..have felt yucky all day.
We had a great picnic..most people came inside to cool off, but some stayed outside. After picnic h and I went to park for concert and fireworks..they were just great..h and I sat and talked while waiting for traffic..no r talk..just common talk about our friends we were with, our church stuff coming up.. H did make a very nice comment to me...earlier in the day his mom was here, and to make a long story short..she is on kitchen committee at church..kinda bossy..well this new guy has joined the church(also at our house) and he is into cooking wonderful meals..put new kitchen in at his former church..well we need a new one at ours, and of course mil thinks she knows what we need..she was going on and on with this guy, and I had to walk away or I was going to say something I should not..that is what h said to me, that it was great that I could walk away...it is small, but this is another thing h and I did not do in our m, compliment each other when we did something good..he knows mil and I but heads on things...thing is many other people have the same problem with her..so at least I don't think it is all me...at our picnic she had to butt in and always turn the story around to her..just like her mother did, and it used to make her mad..said she would never do that!!!
Hi Sue, sounds like you had a nice time. Isn't it nice when we see the baby steps? You are an inspiration to me.
Just wanted to thank you for your support and advice. It's helping me to get my head on straight again. Still having a hard time, but it is slowly getting better. Just glad I have a C appt tomorrow.
Keep up the good work!
JL
Life is not measured in the breaths we take, but in the moments that take our breath away...
Called h today at work and told him about a few messages and mail that I had gotten..we started talking about his mom, who on Thurs is going up to Wisc. to have an angigram done to fix a hole in her heart..I had wanted to go, but did not mention it as maybe h would feel like I am forcing my way to stay in the family...well anyways he asked me if I had thought about going up with him....can you believe it..he asked me..I said I would, have to shift around work, and co worker was not too happy about having to come in, but oh well..my other friends at work said it was a very good sign that he hinted that he would like you to go..and you guys know he is not a talker/asker..so I am so excited..not to have to go under these circumstances..but it is a definate sign that he must still care something for me.
MEntioned that our video club is Sat., and would he want to go..he said yes, and I said I would get the movie and we could watch it Fri..
Have a great time!
