I liked Fig's response so I'm going to ride her coattails.
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For me honesty is very important
For me it's the most important thing. With my X, I never once knew until I found him talking to a girl in my garage. And even then, i never heard a true thing come out of his lips. That event will live with me forever I think. If I can't trust you to tell me the truth, then what is the purpose of knowing you? To feel good? No. I have to have the truth.
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BF and I have a strict honesty policy...i have been married to a sociopathic compulsive liar...truth is important to me...it's how I base my judgements
There ya go. I too base my judgements on truth. Sometimes it hurts, sometimes it does not. But I sleep better at night knowing the truth and not wondering.
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whoever said we have to be honest with ourselves is right on
This is key too. Because we surely can't expect others to be honest with us if we're not honest with ourselves. AND we surely can't expect our kids to be honest with us if we're not honest with ourselves and with them either.
found out about affair 8/06 H moves out Nov/06 D final 8/07 X re marries OW 5/08 _________________________ Courage does not always roar, sometimes it is a quiet voice at the end of the day saying... " I will try again tomorrow". -- Mary Anne Radmacher
What's up Shoe!!! Gonna send a house warming gift to me or what????
ya sure, when I get one from you!!
found out about affair 8/06 H moves out Nov/06 D final 8/07 X re marries OW 5/08 _________________________ Courage does not always roar, sometimes it is a quiet voice at the end of the day saying... " I will try again tomorrow". -- Mary Anne Radmacher
I fall into the be honest and upfront from the beginning..... you have no conscious crisis to worry about then...
having said that, there is the fact that the level of trust in people in general will dictate just how forthcoming we are with our sensitive personal material.
Depending on the conversation and the person there is nothing at all wrong with saying that you have resevations about dicussing intimate( not sexual, for the pervs that went there ) subjects.... and that you prefer to establish a comfort level before entering into details. If that causes others to pull away.... then you've saved yourself any undue discomfort.
Psa 51:10 Create in me a clean heart, O God, and renew a right spirit within me.
