Small positive steps # 5

[AliSuddenly]

Hey Kalni..well that is interesting! You will have to wait and see..will you come home on time? About the house, what is your goal? Is your goal to make it easier for him to come back to you, to the R, to the home? Is your goal to tear down walls and his fears and make him feel accepted?? I dont know, my instinct is welcome him to your home with open arms whenever he wants, if thats what he asks for.

I cant see how it would help you to say that he cant spend time there? MAYBE...he wants to see how he FEELS being there??? (or has he spent time at home all day before recently?)

Thats alot of stuff to hide! I had to do this too each time my BF came over (except the falsies) and also, the books, the lists of GALing, lists of things to chat about and clear all the history off the PC and links and cookies, as he asks to check his email sometimes! Good luck with Operation De-DB.

Ali xxx