no phonecalls from H so far, silence... Scaaaaryyy!!
K
PS Just kidding, didn't expect him to, he WOULD have to TALK to me if he called, right? And we know how difficult that can be, don't we? I need to go home, its 7 in the afternoon...
I just wanted to let you know that I am reading and pulling for you and your H. I want to thank you for making me laugh so much with all of your awesome jokes!!! I think it is SO great that you are finding ways to make yourself laugh in the midst of all the craziness!!
T when are you going to have a thread? It seems to me you must be feeling either much better or much worse to not be able to post anything about you. What is it?
Jeff, thanks for the hugs. I am feeling worse (physically) but better in general.
My H called and said he has a free day tomorrow and that he will come by and stay with the kids at home, he sounded sweet (bliax) and caring (!!!)... I don't expect him to be here when I get home but who knows? BTW, do you guys think it's Ok I let him in my house? I am wondering...
I need to hide my diary, the letters I never sent to him, the bank accounts details I still receive from his bank (not very clever, is he?), Woog's pictures and love notes, my little black book with the names & numbers, my sex lingerie and the "faltsies"... S&^t!! I have to do a lot tonight...
Love K
Woog, where are you? You must be on the plane... Don't worry no change of plans
Hey Kalni..well that is interesting! You will have to wait and see..will you come home on time? About the house, what is your goal? Is your goal to make it easier for him to come back to you, to the R, to the home? Is your goal to tear down walls and his fears and make him feel accepted?? I dont know, my instinct is welcome him to your home with open arms whenever he wants, if thats what he asks for.
I cant see how it would help you to say that he cant spend time there? MAYBE...he wants to see how he FEELS being there??? (or has he spent time at home all day before recently?)
Thats alot of stuff to hide! I had to do this too each time my BF came over (except the falsies) and also, the books, the lists of GALing, lists of things to chat about and clear all the history off the PC and links and cookies, as he asks to check his email sometimes! Good luck with Operation De-DB.
Ali xxx
Me:40! H:37 Together: 12yrs IDLY & left 11/07 ADs 03/08 OW 8/08 Reconciled 05/09 now married! my thread
I think I agree with Ali. For now, it seems to me the right thing is to let him in the house. He seems to be moving closer, at a snails pace, but still closer. So, making him more comfortable should be a good thing, I think. Now, just to make him squirm a little, you might "accidentally" leave out some sexy lingerie, maybe just sticking out of a drawer? Or maybe dab a little scent where you know he'll sit? Just to make him a little uncomfortable!