Michelle...do know that you can always come here..I will check newcomers...Try not to ask too many questions...h and I rarely talk about us.
h and I went to my dads...before that when he came to get me, I was sittting on deck..so he joined me and started talking away....a first for him in many many years. He sounds kinda down about his job(bank auditor)he has become so involved in church..I asked him if he ever thought about seminary school, as people have asked me..he said he has, but realized he would then have to leave our church, and there is so much that can be done there.
I also think...but not 100 % sure that the ff thing really has bothered him...the fact that she "needed" him so, and my guesss is and it is only a guess, and lord knows I've been very wrong on my assumptions,but I think she would have loved for it to go further and my h was smart enough not to, so she found a man that was available..and dumped my h. Now I might be wrong and maybe this is just what I want to have happened..it will be interesting to see if they bowl together or will she replace my h with lover boy.
Bob...kids never cease to amaze you..even as they are young adults..the other night dd and I went to eat and called h to join us...before he got there we were in a booth and he always sits next to her, the princess,I sometimes and only for a few minutes, get jeoulous of their r, especially when he hugs her... but I said he will sit next to me...the silverware is on htis side...well he sat next to her...anyways when she and I were on way home we were talking about him,and i probably said more than I should, but I made a comment about the future and wishing I knew what he was going to do, and she said when he figures it out himself he will tell you...also said her friend thinks her parents will get a d once she leaves home, because they are always bad mouthing the other..and that they have stayed together only for her. I said to dd, I hope you don't think that is our case..as we have been happy up until the past few years of all the turmoil and changes in our lives..she knew it. I said I don't think I would stay just because of the kids..
So kids are pretty smart and don't ever think as they grow up that you are covering things up..as they know way more than we give them credit for. At work everyone talks about how all kids drink, lie....I respond with that you have to respect them, trust them, and give them some freedom when they are young, and in return you will get the same back. My kids never really had a curfew..they knew when the legal time was for being out, and they respected that...they did not sneak out and lie...don't sweat the small stuff. Being able to look at your kids when they are 20 and 23 and say that they have never really ever given you any grief or serious problems is a great accomplishment. (now dd is going to be 21 in 5 months as she informed me and does intend to go to bars) so I might have to give an update on that experience.
