You could definitely say that I'm enabling the A by not demanding that she drop it. What you're suggesting is a sraightforward and logical way to handle the situation. I don't think it will work for me though. My W has been big on 'discovering herself' and 'finding true happiness' through this separation. If I start making demands or cause any kind of conflict for that matter she will see me as someone who is standing in the way of her pursuit at this point in time. She has said she is seeing OM because he makes her feel good about herself, and while I never put my W down I also could have done much more to prop her up. Another reason why I think that continuing to do what I'm doing will work is because my W has always had good morals and is very intelligent. She knows what she is doing is wrong and it's a matter of time before it gets to her and she decides what she's going to do with her life. If I'm therre for her through this she will see that even in her darkest moments I still stood by her. When that sets in with her I think it will be a powerful benefit for me.
