Sue,
Thank you glad to know there is so many people going through the same thing, the support has been wonderful now I know that instead of berating my h with q's about r I can come here to vent and get advice how wonderful!!

I started posting under newcomers under slipping fast

Glad to hear your h said yes to the picnic. My h and I went out last night and had a good time together and he showed some affection which made me feel good (theres a positive)
Michelle