I am a newcomer but think maybe I should be using this forum instead started posting my story under slipping fast.
I have been reading your story and It sounds alot like mine my husband stays at our home the majority of the time and says he is trying to work on it mentions doing things together, but he still works with his ow and sometimes he comes home and seems like he still wants her.
I am not sure either if I should compliment him I don't want him to think I am being pushy, I still feel like I am always intiating or asking for affection. Anyways it sounds like you are doing the right things and I know somedays I feel like screaming. if you have any advice I would appreciate it.