Whew, that's a loaded statement. Do they need to know? Do they care how we feel? IMO that is different in each sitch and in each time frame of each sitch.
I am very tired of putting a lid on how I feel, but I also know that the right words and the right timing are much more effective than blowing smoke and steam. I try to think of H's side too, which is hard to do when he keeps so much of his life a secret.
Mostly I am tired today and deflated again from not getting any sleep last night. That's a sign for me to be very careful if I see H on days like this.
Live your life while you are still living. Riding the trail less traveled.
