I'm glad you all are posting. It is good to know , especially for the newcomers, it is ok to let it out. Sometimes it feels as if you are doing wrong when you do. i even, get a little nervous posting my "letting it out" since it seems like a No-no at times.
But for almost three years i have been afraid to tell H what kind of person I think he has become. His responses always say something along the line"I know you hate me "
But it isn't hate. It is getting to the point where you realize things.
