it is ok to compliment h, there is nothing wrong with it in fact it would be a good thing to do.
writing about such things in a card may be seen as persuit...is there a way you can practice getting more comfortable dishing out compliments and praise without writting it??
I started to compliment h during our seperation (all the things I thought he already knew...and some of the things I had miscommunicated negatively to him) complimenting his parenting, the yard work...little things like that...he didn't always take it well (kinda always negated whatever I was saying but he heard it anyway and that's what's important) but I believe it made a difference in things.
