Jak, Your frustration with your H is understandable. I can see where faith in your H and M would be fading, and hope that the M could improve would also be fading.
Distance and loneliness in a M is difficult. What's interesting is that sexual activity in your case does not enhance intimacy and connection for you.
Please stay connected to the joys and connection you have outside of the M.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."