Let it out??? YYYYEEEESSSSSSSS!!! I found that when I put H in his place and told him exactly what I thought he would back away and act very distant.
At the time that was fine with me...I would not entertain any conversation except if it dealt with the kids...
I also let him know, quite bluntly about my feelings regarding the OW...I remember telling him very calmly that I hoped and prayed every night that our D's did not marry someone like him. Felt great to say it!!
I also felt very abandoned but it was easier to just not talk to him anymore. I would not allow him to come in the house anymore...I felt like it was an invasion of my space. I would meet him in the driveway.
Fast forward to today...H and I did work things out and H moved home 9 months ago. It is hard work and somedays I wonder if I did the right thing. I do believe he was MLC totally!!
We go to counseling together and have become much more open...all this would not have happened if I just let things slide. H has told me he respects me more today because he realizes how strong I am and was.
So IMO, getting if off your chest is not a bad thing!
