Thanks Hopeful, i appreciate your support! i have talked with a good friend too today and she recommended something similar, as well as me considering to try and modify my work situation so that i'm not away all week and only home on WEs... will dive into DR book as soon as i receive it!
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Thx HiC, always value your opinion. I think I will wait to see things over Easter and contact following Thursday. WAW has 5D next Saturday and is invited to a 1 hour Easter Egg thing through her Sunday School. I am going to ask, by giving her the flyer, if she would bring 5D to it. I'll learn something. If she goes or not.
I left for work yesterday morning and did not return last night. My brother in law had come over on Sunday afternoon and spent all day Monday with H. So I haven't spoken to him since Sunday night when we went to bed. I tell you. I am keeping it positive about my marriage, but it is driving me crazy that he continues to flirt and tell everyone that we are getting a divorce or are already divorced. Looking through the threads I get conflicting advice on whether to call him out on it.
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HiC, stay strong. I wouldn't call him out on it. You are the better woman and you have to let him know that you are by not taking any action by bringing it up. It will just show insecurities on your part. It will probably cause a fight.
I have similar problems. My W got rid of me as a friend on MySpace yesterday. I have no idea why she would do that. Now today, she wants me to get her off our cell phone plan so she can have her own. She says it's because we are getting a divorce and things are going to have to be separated. The only reason I see doing either one is so I can't see who she's talking to on MySpace or on her phone. I too want to confront her; but I don't see any good that would do. I just keep LRT and 180 while praying for God to give me more patience. I will pray for you to be able to do the same.
"If only they could see our hurt and love, things would be so much different."
Thx. I didn't think about looking insecure. The EA's and flirting have been going on since his decision so I am pretty good about holding out on that, but it is frustrating to me that he can't be honest about our sitch. Telling people that we are already divorced when he hasn't even filed can only mean that he is setting himself up for an affair and justifying flirting. Otherwise if he isn't having or planning to have an affair or flirting why would anyone care if he is divorced or not. Can't control him. God is in control.
Thanks for your support.
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You are so welcome. Yeah, I suspect my W is flirting/talking/seeing someone. I don't know if it's better to know or suspect. I just try my hardest to not think about it. At least your H hasn't filed, hold on to that. If he was DONE with the marriage, he wouldn't be putting that off. My W on the other hand is proceeding at light speed. Wants to divide the bills, is cutting off contact with me, is cutting off contact with my family, and our first court date for temporary living arrangements and custody is next week.
I think you are doing wonderfully. I read a great quote yesterday. "Don't tell God how big your problems are. Tell your problems how big your God is!" Hang in there.
Telling people that we are already divorced when he hasn't even filed can only mean...
rather large assumption. "As if" comes to mind. Be positive. My WAW has done things in the fairly distant past that would be similar. Something perhaps to keep in mind, whatever their thoughts are today or yesterday, does not dictate what they will do tomorrow. Having you at his side while he is getting better is a sign of the opposite of the quote in my mind.
