Men and women are thrown together in the workforce more so now than ever before and I have noticed that the younger folks don't see anything wrong with their S having friendships with the opposite sex (without the S included). However, I can tell them that trouble is waiting to happen whenever they start that.
Sandi
Hi Sandi,
I think the important part of your statement is the "without the s included". THAT is when the trouble begins whether the new friend is male or female. Yes partners should have their own friends and their own lives but I believe a w or h should know who the friends are and at least spend some time with them. Having friends of the opposite sex can be a benefit to the m if handled correctly and not treated as a secret, something to hide, something taboo etc. I can talk with my female friends about my m and they'd all typically see it my way...talk to a male friend and I may just be given a different perspective, a different way of viewing things that may just be what I need to feel better about my m. Of course it could also backfire if that male friend had alterior motives but then they wouldn't be a friend would they.
I've been reading some of your posts and I admire your strength and determination to rebuild your m. I'm ready to give up myself but it seems like it's been longer and with more issues for me.
