Well, I just have a couple of minutes before I hit the shower.
Just finished my 2nd coaching call with Joann...once again, very affirming, and really helps my PMA!
I spoke for about 10 minutes on W and I's last 2 weeks of interaction, and Joann told me all of this is totally normal. The way W is acting, responding, feeling, things she is saying...totally normal. How I feel about not contacting her, how I always feel like pushing when things are going well...totally normal. The "chameleon approach", where W gets really cool and distant after we have had a really nice, deep weekend together. All normal and predictable.
Anyway...I have homework!
- I must be consistent in everything I do (GAL, how I talk to her, etc) - I need to let her do some of the work. How? By doing LESS at my end. - I need to let HER bring up R talk, especially when it concerns the future - When she does talk about the future, don't bite, be cool and friendly but not eager - I need to suggest not seeing each other (like I did this past weekend)
I will do this by (once again trying at least) not contacting her. When I have done this in the past few weeks, she has always come to me. Joann thinks this is an excellent sign.
I should not be as "available" (like Fish tells me). Be vague about what I'm up to.
BTW, my "Dobson Letter" appears to have been a good idea to shake things up in our dynamic. I am less predictable.
How will I know I am seeing progress? 1. She will contact me more than vice versa. 2. She brings up the future now and then when we talk.
