Quoting Sue: I don't know where to go from here..we seem to be content for now..is it enough..or just easier..I want more..am I too impatient??
We seem content or he seems content? The rest of your question seem to lead that you are not content, at least not all the time. On the other hand, you seem to find solace in how you are spending time together with H. If that works to ward off the times you are not content, then go with it. It is possible too, it having the same effect of your H. If H continues to get more comfortable being around you, it could draw him closer.
Quoting Sue: and as I said before I am afraid to ask for fear I won't like the answer..
This past weekend, I can so relate to that sentiment. My W wouldn't say what was really on her mind, but left the door open for me to ask. I just couldn't bring myself to go there. I had a sense that it would have had a finality about it if I asked. It was the invitation she was waiting for to bear her feelings as they are now, which seemed would have led to her admitting the death knell to M. I just couldn't go there ... clinging to a (false?) glimmer of hope that if she continues to hold on, she might be able to see things differently again.
Quoting Sue: I feel like I don't belong here..
Nonsense! We all seek the help of one another to get us thru the times of turmoil. Sue, you seem to have a better grasp of keeping yourself firmly grounded. I have always admired that about you. Wish I could only help more, but always know, I keep thoughts of wishing the best would come your way.
But, there is no rule about having only a thread in only one forum. Perhaps, placing a thread over in "Hopefulness" as well as here would help in getting more exposure with more people that may be in a similar sitch as yours.
