H left about 30 minutes ago so he stuck around for 45 mins or so after D2 finally went down..
It's funny (and not in the ha, ha sense) that I see that H is really trying.. he's making an effort to include me in his daily goings on.. but at times it seems really forced.. I can't put my finger on it.. he just doesn't seem natural some of the time.. guess it shows that he doesn't yet feel he can completely be himself around me.
The visit was alright. He showed me his short film.. I affirmed.. told him it was great and how proud I am of him (which of course I am).. D2 had fun with him. He brought phad thai for he and I (D2 wouldn't give it a try) and it was really yummy. It was from a place right near his work and we used to frequent it often. As a matter of fact the night I went into labour with D2 we had take out from there earlier that day for dinner.
So I'm just going to keep on keeping on. He said that if he has time between his oral surgeon appt and his hair cut tomorrow that he'll bring me a starbucks.. so that was nice. We were also talking about all the foods he's going to have to eat before they break his jaw and steak is at the top of his list.. so he suggested that our dinner out together be for steak. How can I say no to steak!!!
Overall a nice visit. Got a quick kiss and a decent hug at the door. No ripping my clothes off or anything.. and I'm not going to initiate any more sex.. if he wants it he needs to put the moves on me.
I know there was some positives from tonight but for some reason it still felt off.. like his heart isn't really in it, you know?
Well I'm going to check in on a few threads and then head to bed.
Relax. It will come back to normal. He is making an effort and that's what matters. The Starbucks offer was a good sign. He is working on the little things. The bigger things will come soon.
Hang on, it will keep getting better. Just keep your expectations in line.
Hey WTG, I agree that he's making the effort. He's just testing the waters...this is where your DB'ing is important! You might expect him to withdraw again as well.
Things sound positive though...that's great. Sorry so short...I've got to get to bed! J~
M 35 H 29 M 4 yrs T 9 yrs D 3 S born 10/19/07 Bomb 09/10/07 Separated next day OW - broke up and H moved out 09/07/08 Status - still figuring this out
W2 - Your situation seems to be getting better and better. Keep up the great job you are doing on making yourself happy. I may check out that parents without partners where I live.
BTW... As my W is Thai, and we have good friends that have a Thai restaraunt, I have eaten quite the variety of Thai food. How do you like Pad Kee Mao (drunken noodles)? It is my favorite. I also like a very spicy Som Tum (unripe papaya salad).
I could not get the book you recommended, they said it was in stock, but salesperson and i could not find it.
So i picked up another book of Shakti Gawain titled Creative visualization
Hope its on the same basis as the one you have.
May try a few pages tonight
hugs bear
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Me 42-Him 40 T20yrs Married 16yrs 2/06 H- "not sure if i want to be married anymore" 6/07 H-"I'm not happy" 9/07 Admits affair & OW 12/08 I moved out 12/09 still waiting for divorce
