I will try this again with a clearer head..help

[Dom R]

Thank you for the links..very helpful, Dom.

I guess the question that looms on my mind..is that she wants this, and no matter what I do, she still feel this is the right thing to do.

What does what she wants to do, have anything with you doing "the right thing", as best you are able?
She controls her. You control you.

Surely, God doesn't want me in a loveless marriage. For us to walk with God, we have to live according to His will..

"surely"? where do you get this "surely"?
where does it say, "you will know God's will,by what makes you happy" ????

Isnt it the other way around?
Arent we supposed to derive happiness, from following God's will?

There are certainly times and places, where following God's will, does make us directly happy at the selfish level.

But sometimes, it is the opposite. Sometimes, what would "make us happy", goes directly against God's will in more obvious ways.
Having an affair. Stealing. Murdering an 'enemy'.


"surely" therefore, we cannot judge God's will for us, solely by "what makes us happy" ?

so wouldn't that mean that being in a marriage with an ungodly spouse who doesnt want in it be NOT in God's best interest for our lives on this earth?

It sounds to me, like you are mispelling "Chevelle's interest", as "God's interest", friend.

I know God does not want this to happen, but if W is blind to the idea that we could try to work on M, why would I stand for, possibly the rest of my life, waiting for something that could never happen?

why?
may i suggest, "if and only if you believe it is God's will for you to do so".

I guess that is my concern..I would like to reconcile, but I can't fight someone that walks away..I feel maybe God has a different plan in place for me that I maybe need to follow..one that doesn't include W.

maybe God does want you to do something different than what you are doing now.
Maybe He just wants you to stop "fighting" your wife. To "be still".

you cant "fight" your wife back to you. I think that you can only do that, by choosing love. Love, in the 1st Corinthians 13 sense.
Even then, there is no guarantee she will return. But I think that there then is a guarantee that you are doing what is pleasing in the eyes of God.


Good night, and may God bless you, with renewed love.