I've stopped asking MIL what is H doing or thinking, it is a way for me to detach totally from H, he's made his choices, right or wrong they are his to make and no one will change his mind. Your H has chosen a bad road, but only by fallign will he learn, keep detaching and getting off his crazed rollercoaster.
Be not afraid...I will repay you for the years the locusts have eaten Joel2
30something 2kids survivor of S, MLC, A, D I have peace in my heart, at last.