New year, new thread, new attitude!

[S.T. _I Made It!]

hey New, I feel bad, I think I used to check on you, but I must have lost your thread at some point.

thanks for the post on mine!

I don't remember anything about your thread right now, but let me ask you this.

Did you ever initiate in bed before? before the sitch? not in the beginning, but the times leading up to the sitch? If you were like me and a lot of women, we get insecure and start wearing more comfy clothes and less sexy clothes, we are tired more because of kids, and sex kinda gets put on the backburner. If that's the case, then by all means attack your husband! I would really be surprised if he didn't receive it well. Now if he has some kind of physical problem causing him a complex about ML, then that's a whole diff issue, but IMHO, guys want us to be sexy, look good for us, initiate sometimes, and just be that "crazy-good-girl" in bed.

The only thing you HAVE to make sure of, is what UD said. You HAVE to keep expectations at zero and not let any rejection put you down. you have to play it like, oh well, too bad for you, you woulda loved it! or You won't be able to reject THIS for long!

I think this really depends though on how your sexual R with your H was before the sitch.