Your life will be better with him out of it than it was with him in it. Why is it a problem if the same is true of him? Please tell me you aren't still holding onto being right, lol. It is really OK for you both to have wonderful lives.
Oldtimer--How dare you be so reasonable when I want to rant!!!
Eh, just kidding luv.
I don't know why it matters. I don't know why I care. Because, I am human I suppose and it will take me time to adjust. I think you are right. I think it will all be okay and that the children will adjust and that he will normalize his life because he does strive for balance and so...it will all work out.
But sometimes I need to be CRAZY!
I did get a VERY sweet email from ex MIL today telling me how amazing the children are and how proud of me she is for raising them so well. That was a big thing for her to say and I appreciated it. I really did.
I am REALLY trying to get to an acceptance place with Jackie. I feel I need to get over this hurdle for me to be happy. I need to extend an olive branch and blaze the trail so that when we do meet (which is inevitable) I can know that I was the one who was the bigger person. It's not about being right for the sake of being right, it's about battling my demons and conquering my fears.
But still, sometime I just need to be crazy!!!
And about karate man--I'll keep my eyes open with him, don't worry. I am not feeling desperate in any way and am ready to evaluate the situation for what it is and let it go if it isn't right.
