Sue,

Thanks, and I think that I will. I had a conversation with my H last night and have decided to totally let go. It is the hardest thing for me to do, but I realized after last night Idon't have a choice.

You are right, about being depressed. It is definitely a hard place to get out of once you are there. I realize that it isn't just your spouse that hs to take babysteps in this. I also have to take babysteps in learning how to live a life without a person that has been such a big part of my life for so long.

I didn't realize how hard of a job that is to do. I thought that finding things to do without him would be easy, but it is the mind that you can't get away from.

Thanks for your input and I'm glad to see that there are so many people that have made it as far as they have. Makes you see that there is a light at the end of the tunnel.

Laurie