Laurie..I am sure you have learned about the begging and pleading...I tried to db last spring and summer when h was still home...but it was clear that h was not even willing to think about working on r until he was able to get out of the sitch and have his own space. I think part of it is that I have done EVERYTHING in this m and home and maybe he wanted to do some things for himself...I have learned plenty to apply to our "new" m, if he decides that he wants to save it!!
Keep doing things for you...I have found such joy in doing things I never got around to..quilting..walking..joined a book club..may start a Bunco club..church stuff. H also has found this greedom to do things outside of us, something that I am afraid also contributed to our m slipping..I was very much a person who wanted him to be at home if he was not working..I don't think it was for control, but more a lack of realizing that there can be a life outside of us and our kids. Hang in there for the roller coaster rides. I found Newcomers to be too depressing, so maybe start a post here..there are many good people here..it is so uplifting to come here on a bad day and know that someone will help you sort out the problem.
