Yes, I'm new to the board. I put my story on the Newcomers board, but I seem to get more help from this forum.
Basically this is how it goes. We have been married for 10 years. We have 3 children, 11S, 7S, and 6D. We dated for about 1 year before getting married. He is still living at home right now. I'm going to move out with the kids when the D is final (hopefully it won't ever get that far). In August, 2002, when all of this started, he wouldn't even talk to me, touch me or be around me. I spent so many months apologizing for everything, changing myself, pleading and begging him to give me another chance. I thought that it was all me. Then I started doing investigating on things because his actions weren't always going along with his words.
He has been hurt, but I know that it wasn't entirely my doing. He has spent alot of time talking with the wrong people and not to mention just before he turned 35 he got really strange on me.
My H doesn't make any of the moves either, but he never stops me from making them. Does that make sense? I would have to say that your H is like mine and is a very prideful man. I don't know about yours, but mine when he makes a decision, he has a hard time changing it because that might mean he doesn't keep his word. He is kind of funny that way, but like I told him when all this started, if you change your mind about anything don't let fear or your pride stand in your way of keeping your family intact. The rest can be worked out if he decides to keep his family together.
