Your wife, is not a magic 8 ball dude. She does not have all the answers. She is detaching because it is the easiest way to avoid the real issues and she knows she doesn't have the answer as to how to fix your marriage.
Back way off Frank, let her go about her business and you go about yours.
Thanks Ian. And everyone else.
Maybe there is no way to 'fix' our marriage. There is no trust on either side. And even if I'm willing, she isn't. Love may be a choice but she doesn't want to make that choice. She wants to be around 'like minded people who are happy'. We're not 'like minded' I guess. We've always been different in our views and beliefs but it's never been an issue until now. Because we're not 'happy'.
And as far as the past - well expecting her to 'help me' was a poor choice. Helping myself is the only logical choice in life. I forgive her and choose to let it go now.
Hopefully with the Lexapro and just plain hard work I can let her go and continue to reclaim my life as it was - without her in it.
