Frank, Lexapro worked really well for me and was easy to wein off of when i was ready. Your doctor should give you a standard test (a bunch of questions) that will help him/her determine whether you need to be on anti-depressants or not.
Bworl and TheOden gave you great responses do I have not much to add to it. I will ask you this though, did you ever own a magic 8 ball? You know the thing you shake and ask questions and it tells you if they will or wont happen. Well, that game was a bunch of bullshitt, contrary to popular belief the eight ball didnt have all the answers. Your wife, is not a magic 8 ball dude. She does not have all the answers. She is detaching because it is the easiest way to avoid the real issues and she knows she doesnt have the answer as to how to fix your marriage.
Back way off Frank, let her go about her business and you go about yours.
A. Father A. Man A. Wage earner A. GAL B. Friends C. Material things D. Your wife and marriage to her. D. Figuring all of this out
