OK, I won't just lurk.

I liked Fig's response so I'm going to ride her coattails.

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For me honesty is very important


For me it's the most important thing. With my X, I never once knew until I found him talking to a girl in my garage. And even then, i never heard a true thing come out of his lips. That event will live with me forever I think. If I can't trust you to tell me the truth, then what is the purpose of knowing you? To feel good? No. I have to have the truth.

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BF and I have a strict honesty policy...i have been married to a sociopathic compulsive liar...truth is important to me...it's how I base my judgements


There ya go. I too base my judgements on truth. Sometimes it hurts, sometimes it does not. But I sleep better at night knowing the truth and not wondering.

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whoever said we have to be honest with ourselves is right on


This is key too. Because we surely can't expect others to be honest with us if we're not honest with ourselves. AND we surely can't expect our kids to be honest with us if we're not honest with ourselves and with them either.

Good Thread.