This 180 would show her that I am not needy (or at least make her wonder...). I looked back through old emails, going back 2 years. There were multiple times when I would go 2, 3, 4 days with no emails sent or received. I was very surprised to see that.
These days, when I am feeling "not so secure", I have been emailing/phoning/texting, or responding to hers, up to 10 times per day. Bad Mink!!!
In addition, I feel like I need to keep in touch...I REALLY feel it. I feel like she's slipping away, when in reality, the more I do this, the more it actually WILL push her away.
So, actually, this constant keeping in touch is new (needy) behaviour. Casually contacting her is the way I used to be, which to her is more normal.
Does this make sense?
She comments on it, which tells me it's important.
As my DB coach says: "Every time she comments on an aspect of your relationship, she is telling you how to get through to her".
