Edie, I just spent the past 45 mintues reading your whole story and it is really inspiring to me. I see a lot of myself in you and a lot of my husband in yours. I too seem to "mother" my H, and I know that has been a complaint in the past. Reading your posts has reminded me that I need to work on letting that go.

Overall it is just so encouraging to me. I want to approach my H and see if he would go to Retro with me (there is one in May). I am just not sure how to approach the subject.

I just keep reading and seeing how things are progressing for you. Right now I long for my H to hug me...touch me in any way.

Good luck with the forgiving. It is so difficult to forgive. You know that it is the right thing to do because it will free you, but it is hard to let go because you think "what if he does it again?"

Sara

Me-31 H-38
M: 5 yrs T: 7 yrs
No kids
Went to Prostitutes 10-1-06
Found out about OW 12-24-07
Bomb on EA/PA: 1-2-08
OW ended it with H "for good" 3-8-08
OW is back 4-19-08
H and OW tell me that they are in love 5-19-08
Filed for divorce 6-5-08
Divorced 7-2-08